"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes." William Gipson`
It is said you are the sum of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.
For many years this made me a 60 year old sick person who loves listening to daytime local radio! I’d like to think I’m not that person but I can certainly understand where the thinking comes from.
When you suffer from a health issue you often spend time with similar people, dialysis is a case in point. It is not, of course, the health issue of the people you spend time with but their mindset that is important. If its bitter, negative and depressing your in trouble.
Health status and mindset are too very different things.
Watch the Paralympics for the best example of this. People, apologies I should say, athletes who undoubtedly have suffered adversity at some stage in their life showcasing that a physical disability has lead them to conquer fear, adversity and often stigma to become the best versions of themselves possible.
These athletes, from my point of view, are role models of the highest order.
Instead of seeing illness, be that mental or physical, as a disability take on your issue, accept the challenge and you will often be seen as superman/women.
If your not feeling that way then spend time with those who have suffered in a similar way to you but appear happy and healthy despite their challenges.
It is a truism that who you spend time with is often a true reflection of your own mental state.
If you have to walk away and find better role models, read better books or simply watch the Paralympics and soak up the positivity, Watch how so called limitations can be managed and overcome.
When we manage the limits life places upon us, we can go on and exceed expectations.
Darren is an inspirational speaker offering real life advice and guidance. He has a Degree in Sports and an MA in Health Promotion. Couple this with 1,800 hospital sessions and 2 transplants, due to Kidney disease, and you see his impact as a speaker and educator. Darren's skill is in improving the lives of those who suffer adversity and creating positive change within the healthcare industry.